Lillian CONNORS

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

Notes:

 My grandmother (Isobel Connors) had a child out of wedlock. She never identified who the father was. That child was my aunt Lillian Ann. When Lillian was about a year old my grand-mother met and married my grandfather (Joseph Alexander Arbour). Lillian was aware that grandpa was not her biological father. She fell in love with grandpa's brother Willard Ernest Arbour. They hadseven children together. They later divorced.

From Catherine via email on 15 Jul 2009: Okay here goes: I am not sure where you got all those different last names for my Aunt Lilian. But I am 100% positive that her name was Lilian Ann Connors at birth. She wasborn in Westmount, Quebec,on 7 October 1930. She was born to my grandmother Isobel Connors. My grandmother never named Lilian's father. My family lived with Aunt Lilian for a month when we moved from Campbell's Bay, Quebec to Ottawa, Ontario when I was 10 years old. My mother and her 1/2 sister Lilian were very close. I do not know when Aunt Lilian married my great-uncle Willard. BUT it is highly likely that they had a couple of children before they married.

From Catherine via email on 19 Jul 2009: I spoke to my cousin Ruth (Lillian and Willard's daughter) on Friday. She is coming over for tea sometime this week and will bring her mother's birth registration card to me. I spoke to my Aunt Irene on Friday evening and she says that Grandma(Isobel Connors) probably did not have Lillian baptised. Here is the story I was told: Grandma got pregnant, she did not identify the father.Her father kicked her out and she went to stay with her older sister Sadie during the pregnancy. Lillian was a home birth. Aunt Irene figuresgrandma was ashamed and did not have her baptized because she did not want the baby to be registered as a "bastard" and "father unknown". After Aunt Lillian was born, my great-grandfather (George Connors) needed help at home so Grandma (and baby Lillian) went back home to help. She later met my grandfather, married him, and the rest is history. Mom told me on Friday evening when Aunt Irene was visiting that Aunt Lillian once found"something" in an oldtrunk Grandma had but she didn't know what it was. My Aunt Lillian tried almost to the end of my grandmother's life to find out who her father was - Grandma would never tell. There has got to be a story there.

From Catherine via email on 18 Aug 2009: Lillian (mom's 1/2 sister) married her "uncle" Willard. They had 7 children. Theirs was not a match made in heaven and those poor kids suffered for it. The marriage didn't last long. Aunt Lillian was anabusive mother and the kids were taken bythe Children's Aid Society a number of times - but always given back. The sad thing is out of the 7 children only 2 lived happy lives as adults. I was not particularily close to my Aunt Lillian. Weshared a love of vintage jewellery and I was given a few of her pieces when she passedaway.
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Ottawa Citizen (ON) -- 17 Jan 2000
ARBOUR-VILLENEUVE
Lilliane Ann -- 07 Oct 1930 - 16 Jan 2000. Passed away with her family by her side. Beloved wife of Edgar Villeneuve, mother of Ruth (Don Guilbeault), Diane, Beverly, Willy, Patsy (Gord Lenser), and Tim. Predeceased by Debbie. Will be missed by 2 step-children Claire and Gerry. Survived by her brothers andsisters, neices and nephews, and her grandchildren and great-grandchildren. A Funeral Mass will be held at the St Ignatius Parish on Donald Street, Tuesday, 18 January, at 2 pm followed by the interment at the Pinecrest Cemetery. Visiting hours,Monday from 2 to4 and 7 to 9 pm, Tuesday from 12 noon. Funeral arrangements entrusted to Racine, Robert, & Gauthier Funeral Directors, 300 Olmstead Street, Vanier, Ontario, 241-3680.

 

 

Lillian a épousé Ernest Willard ARBOUR le 9 avr 1955 à Renfrew County,,,Ontario,Canada,Deep River. Ernest (fils de Alexandre ARBOUR et Lucie CUSSON) est né le 24 juin 1917 à Renfrew County,,,Ontario,Canada,Chalk River; est mort le 8 juil 1980 à Ottawa,,,Ontario,Canada,Carleton County. [Feuille familiale] [Tableau familial]

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• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

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From his cousin Catherine MOUSSEAU DUNNE via email on 14 Jul 2009: He was born on 12 April 1951. Yes, I know about his website. There is something you should know - his website is full of bull you know what. When my great-uncle Williard died in July of 1980 there was a bit of money. It was left to my Aunt Lillian (perhaps withthe assumption that she would share it with the children - she didn't). Willy (as heis known in the family) never said boo about the money until some time after his mother died in January of 2000. It is my opinion and that of most of the family (including some of this siblings) that he is not playing with a full deck. How inGod's name do you sue dead people for money? Because allthe people involved in his "case" are dead. He has even chained himself to a tree outside the courthouse.

From Cathy via email on 19 Aug 2009: Willie has one son who is mentallydisabled - and I do not know his name because for some reason he has never been "talked" about in the family.
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Ottawa Sun (ON) -- 15 Jul 2010 -- by Doug Hempstead
HINTONBURH RESIDENT HAS THE BOOM-BOOM BLUES
Joan McIntyre is feeling cranky these days. The 73-year-old mother of eight can't sleep. "I took a sleeping pill around 9:30 pm and I was still awake at 11 pm," McIntyre said. "It didn't doanything." The Hintonburg resident's apartment is sixfloorsup, and directly faces the Bluesfest main stage, a few blocks away. Having lived in the building for 20 years, and in the same unit for two years, McIntyre said it seems Bluesfest is just as loud as ever. But her city councillor, Diane Holmes, disagrees. Holmes said the main audio board for the main stage is supposed to be putting out 90 decibels of sound this year, as opposed to 95 in 2009. "We've had no complaints at all," Holmes said. "Everything is going great." McIntyresaid making complaints to the city is "hopeless."Her apartment is close enough to hear live acts through the walls and over the hum of her air conditioner, even when the main stage isn't featured. She said it gets worse after 9 pm. She saidshe can't make out any ofthe music. "Boom, boom, boom -it's not even blues," McIntyre said. "It gets louder as the night goes on. You can't sleep." On weekends when music starts at noon, McIntyre has taken to simply leaving for the day."I'd rather spend money on gas," shesaid. "It's a terrible time of year." Holmes said the city's health department has put up signs about hearing loss at Bluesfest this year. The event wraps-up Sunday night.

Willard Ernest ArbourComment -- 15 July 2010 12:42 pm
It seems to me that every complaint, no matter, our city councilors always downplay the situation. From slumlords to drug dealers, drug users,prostitutes and yes even murder of a 73-year old wheelchair-boundman at 721 Chapel Crescent. Our so-calledcouncilors always disagree, makingour Good Samaritans feel like our councilors are calling us liars. It's no wonder why our citizens throw in the towel. It serves us no purpose to complain to the people in power, they care less. WhoWil.com
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From cousin Catherine via email on 13 Aug 2010: We have had some rathersad news this week. My cousin Willy (son of Lillian Connors and Willard Arbour) was hit by a car and killed.He died on Wednesday. He was 59-years old. The driver who hit him wasan 81-year old whowent to stomp onthe brakes when he saw Willy in the crosswalk but unfortunately hit the gas pedal instead.

Ottawa Citizen (ON) -- Wednesday11 Aug 2010
OTTAWA PEDESTRIAN DIES IN HOSPITAL AFTER BEING HIT BY CAR
Ontario -- A 59-year-old man struck by a vehicle at the intersection onMontreal Road and Lafontaine Avenue on Wednesday morning has died. Emergency crews responded to the scene at about 10:13 am. Police said an 81-year-old driver was exiting a driveway onto Montreal Road as a pedestrian was crossing the sidewalk. The driver accidentally hit the accelerator instead of the brake and struck the man, police said. Police said the 81-year-old man would likely be charged Wednesday. The pedestrian was taken to the trauma centre at the Civic campus of The Ottawa Hospital where he later died of his injuries. Collision investigators were trying to determine the cause of the collision.

Ottawa Sun (ON) -- Thursday 19 Aug 2010
ARBOUR, Willie 1951-2010 Tragically on Wednesday the 11th day of Augustby traffic accident. He will be missed by his sons, family and friends. A publicmemorial will be held on Monday, 23 August 2010 from 10 am - 12 pm at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parrish, 400 St. Laurent Blvd, Ottawa.

From cousin Cathy on 20 Aug 2010: Brendan and I will be attending the memorial. It is actually atthe church where we were married - and on theday we were married - so we will celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary at a funeral. Willie did NOThave more than one son - he had one biological son (James) - however, after his sister Debbie died, Willie did not want his nephew Trevor to be put into foster care and so he took himin and raised him for a while. Trevor was difficult - Wilie was worse -and Trevor left and went to live with his half brother Jason. Trevor has actuallyhad no contact with Willie in over a year. BUT suddenly Willie is dead - Trevor feels he may have an opportunity to sue someone so. .. Cathy

From Willie's online Guestbook
21 August 2010
I will miss you Willy, we havedone so much together. Thank you for the fun times we had. I'll always remember kid! ~ Marie Vavros, Ottawa, Ontario

From Willy's funeral: Willy's nephew (Ruth's son Teddy) gave one of theeulogies. He startedby saying: Peopleeitherloved Willy or hated Willy.There was no in-between. Sadly, he was right. Willy lived in a "not sogreat" neighbourhood so some of the people attendingthe memorial were "interesting". A couple of the people actually had social workers with them. One of the neighbourhood people gave an eulogy as well. He said that Willy took care of his neighbours - if a child needed a bike, he got them one -an elderly gentlemen needed help with groceries and other things and Willywas always thereto help - there were many stories like that. You know, the one thing Willy wanted mostout of life was the one thing he never had - and that was a loving family life. He had a horrible childhood as a young adult he had problems withalcoholandended up in jail a time or two - as he got older he was plagued by mental health issues. I sincerely wish with all my heart that he is resting in peace.

Willy's sister Beverly did not come home for the funeral nor did her son,Michael, who lives here in Ottawa. Willy's sister Ruth and her husband Don were there. Ruth actually took care of all the arrangements. Her children came. Tammy came with her partner Mike. Teddy was there with his wife Leslie and their sonTyler. Willy's sister Diane was there and her daughter Kelly-Jo. Willy's brother Timmy was there with his 72 year old girlfriend - he's 53 - she has money - need Isay more??!! Timmy, God love him, is back on drugs. A number of peoplecommented on hisappearance which was not good. Neither of Timmy's children (Tara or Benjamin) were there. This really bugs me that his own niece and nephews could not be bothered to go to his funeral. Trevor (Willy's sister's Debbie's son -whoWilly helped raise) was there. I hate to say it but there is something "off" abouthim. He looks creepy and he gave me the shivers. He had not seen Willy in over a year. James (Willy's son) was there with two social workers. He is being permanently placed in an institution for the mentally handicapped/ill. When everything was over and done with and it was time for him to leave he started shouting: Help. They are taking me against my will. They are tryingto lock me up. (Very sad). If youwant an idea of what he looks like these days (the picture you have isold) look up on the internet "Andre the giant". He was a wrestler - take away about 4 feet of height and you have James. Norman Arbour (my Great-Uncle Lawrence's son) came to the funeral. We spoke for a few minutes. Willy's aunts and uncles: Aunt Kay did not feel like going so she didn't. Aunt Irene and Uncle Dan andtheir daughter Theresa came. Uncle Reggie and Aunt Ella did not come because of healthreasonsbuttheirsonRoger came - which was very thoughtful because Roger did not know Willy atall. Uncle Jackie and his two sons Timmy and Robbie came. Robbie also brought his daughter Caitlyn. My mother of course could not attend. Infact, I had to leave the funeral for a while so I could come home and giveMom her meds. Brendan and I were there. Andrew was not. Andrew did not know Willy. Because of my upbringing Andrew was shielded from a lot of my family when he was growing up.Janie (my sister) and her two children, Ashley and Tyler were there. Rod was unable to go. Brendan and I brought my two brothers with us as well - Rick and Ron. That's it for blood relatives. Eddie (who was Lillian's partner forover 35 years]wastherewithhis daughter Claire. Gordie (husband of Willy's deceased sister Patsie) was there. My in-laws came to support our side of the family. Therest were friends of Willy.

It was an "interesting" time because some ofthe people there werementally ill. James wandered around giggling and muttering. He would say to people: I look like Andrew the giant and start laughing. There was an autistic young man there who kept shouting out. The strangest thing for me was this woman comes upto me. I was looking at the photo lay out theyhad of Willy. She asks me which one is Willy. So I start pointing out various pictures of Willy. She asks if there are other pictures so I point to one and say: There's Willy. She turns around and looks at the gathering of people and says: Where? I said: He's not here. He's dead. Oh, she says. Then she asks me where his father is. I tell her that he's dead as well. Oh, she says and wanders away.

 

Décès:
Cause: He was hit by a car while walking

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

Notes:

 Ottawa Citizen (ON) -- Friday 19 Jun 2009
LENSER, Patricia Ann (nee Arbour) 1952 - 2009 Passed away on Wednesday,17 June 2009. Beloved wife of Gordon Lenser. Predeceased by mother Lillian Arbour. She leaves behind sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, and many many friends. Friends are invited to visitat St Ignatius Roman Catholic Church, 518 Donald Street, Ottawa on Monday, 22 June 2009, from 9 am, until time of Memorial Mass at 11

 

From Catherine MOUSSEAU DUNNE via email on 19 Aug 2009: My cousin Patsie who passed away this past June had awonderful sense of humour. She used to turn the awful things (her motherwas Lillian) that happened at home as a childinto funny stories. Aunt Lillian sent her to my grandmother's house one summer for 2 weeks. Patsie told my grandmother thather birthday was the next day. My grandmother quicklywent to the five and dime store and bought her a gift, baked her a cake,and had a wee party for her. Grandma knew what a hard life Patsie and the others had with Aunt Lillianand even though money was tight wanted to do something special for Patsie. At the end of the two weeks Aunt Lillian arrives to get Patsie and grandma gives her hell for missing her daughter's birthday . . . Aunt Lillian says, but her birthday is in September. A saying of Patsie's was always: I married Gordie for his money and I'm not leaving him until I find it. A bittersweet story about Patsie would be when she got cancer. She ended up having numerous surgeries and she would always tell thedoctor she loved him and make him tellher that he loved her as well. She would even get him to hug her and kiss her cheek. Then as they would bewheeling her into surgery she'd look at the doctor and remind him that he loved her and you wouldn't let someone you love die now would you??!! I have told you about Willie having mental health issues - even though he was Patsie's brother, when hewould do something outrageous, like he once chained himself to a tree on the Ottawa Courthouse lawn, she would be the first to come out with something funny about it. She told me that even though she lived in a different city from Willie any time shewanted to see him all she had todo was turn on the 6 o'clock news.

FromCatherine via email on 19 Aug 2009: Patsie was unable to havechildren.

FACT:
To Gordon Lenser

Décès:
Cause: Cancer

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

Notes:

 Debbie had two children. A son named Jerry (his father was her stepfather's son Jerry Villeneuve) and a son named Trevor (unfortunately when he was conceived Debbie's schizophrenia was not being treated and she had no idea who the father was). She died when Trevor was quite young and her brother Willie raised him until he was about 16 or 17 . . . atthat point Trevor moved in with his 1/2 brother Jerry.

 

 

Décès:
Cause: Cancer

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023

Autres événements/attributs:

• _FIL: LEGITIMATE_CHILD
• _CREA: 17 sept 2023